Courtesy Still Counts

In today’s world we are all moving a mile a minute! There is always someplace to go, and something to see or do. People move so fast that they forget to look up,  to connect and to make eye contact.  Common Courtesy is quickly becoming a thing of the past, and it annoys me to no end!

I wish that I could point a finger and say that the disconnect is coming from one particular age, group, race, or sex. The fact of the matter is that I have noticed it in all aspects of life! My student who doesn’t even whisper back a “good morning”, after I’ve greeted him at the door (rude). The hipster teen who has her tiny Bluetooth headphones plugged in. She’s jamming but not hearing a thing anyone is saying to her (ruder), or the well dressed professionals whose eyes are glued to their phones while they bump into me on the street or run me off the sidewalk(rudest). I’ve even been punked by senior citizens pushing shopping carts at Wal-Mart (side-eye).

As a woman who has always prided herself on being both classy and tactful… I was sick of the disrespect!!! I have to admit that my first instinct was to go low and give as good as I get. I’m a quick-witted and sharp-tongued girl by nature, so it wouldn’t be a thing for me to blast somebody for rude and unbecoming behavior!!! Than I heard my mother’s voice in my head and decided to stick with the old “treat people the way that you want to be treated” routine. I decided to be over the top with mine. I made it so that no one could miss me! If we were passing on the street, you better believe that I saw you before you saw me. I’d be passing strangers but smiling and waving at them like we shared a family bond. I’d hold the door for everybody; young, old, black, white, woman, or man. I’d ask people how their day was going, and make small talk with any and everybody that I could. I literally never met a stranger!!!

My courtesy soon became contagious! The people around me began to change. The most stubborn students began to flock to me. Their parents praised my consistency and enthusiasm. The strangers that I met on the street became friends, and my sense of self-worth increased. It’s at this point that I realized that the world needs more people who are dedicated to spreading love and kindness. That is why I created Courteously Curt! I realized that oftentimes my little smile, my quick wink, or my “how are you doing” in passing, changed peoples outlook. My quick act of courtesy broke down the daily barriers that we erect! Now I want to start a movement that is led by woman and girls all over the world!!! The goal is to reconnect people; to get them talking and smiling again. Why girls? Easy… because we are bosses and capable of so much (If we lead…they will follow!).  So ladies, each day as you prepare to leave you homes for school, work, or play;  whither you are putting on lip gloss or leaving fresh-faced to the world, remember to be courteous and kind throughout your day, for you are never fully dressed without a smile <3.

All My Love,

Miss Congeniality 1920

Keep It Movin’

Life is hard; that’s a fact! I wish that it could be different. That everyday could be filled with rainbows and butterflies. I wish that the only tears that we ever shed were tears of joy. However,  we know that’s not reality. Over the years I’ve learned that we can either wallow around in the pain, resentment, and self doubt  that life can bring; or we can chose to be happy!!!
When I was an undergrad at “The Hampton University”, my sorority sister’s and I use to live by the motto “Keep it Moving”. We’d plan community service activities, study groups, and parties around campus and throughout the community. Everyone would pitch in and play a role in the planning/execution of the event. Occasionally, a Soror was unable to fufill her obligation. Instead of getting pissed off or going off, we would simply say “let’s keep it moving”. Without hesitation, someone would jump in and take over her role, and the show would indeed go on! As I transitioned through life I would often encounter unexpected obstacles in both my professional and personal relationships; my career, and my family life. There were so many times that I wanted to curl up in my bed, ignore the telephone ringing, the knocks at the door, and the endless emails. I wanted to be able to drop the ball and have someone step in and pick up the pieces for me. Unfortunately,  I learned the hard way that oftentimes instead of someone being there to have my back- there would be people waiting for me to fall!!! I quickly learned that in order to truly be happy, I couldn’t allow the hurt and pain that life can bring to slow me down. I ‘d have to keep moving, and learn to master the art of Bouncing Back!
Today, my mission is to encourage and inspire women of all ages to live there best lives! I want the world to understand that there are two things that truly define us. (1) Your patience when you have nothing; (2)and your attitude when you have everything! So I encourage you to walk through life with me. I’ll share my crazy and sometimes corny adventures with you.  I’ll show you how I live my best life, and share some of the brilliant life hacks I’ve discovered!!!! Don’t be fooled… I don’t even pretend to have it all together. I am definitely still working on my masterpiece- but, I am truly happy, and that is what life is all about! There are so many beautiful reason to be happy! So make the most of everyday and keep moving to the end of your own rainbow <3.