In order to make it in today’s world, you’ve got to have a healthy dose of grit and determination. You’ve got to know what you want, and have a plan to go out and get it!
You see… life is truly a game of “Win, Lose, or Draw”.
In truth, most of us will spend a great deal of time playing “Guess Who”, as we try and navigate a path to true friendships and love. Some will spend their lives playing “Charades”, guessing the motives of others.
Often times winning the game of life seems impossible! Especially when you’ve taken two steps forward, only to be dealt a card that pushes you three steps backwards. It’s during the times when we are the most vulnerable that we must decide whether to fold or keep going. Therefore it’s important to remember these three things:
1). There is always going to be someone or something that tries to “Monopolize” your time and energy. Therefore its important to balance life and work! If someone or something is taking up all your time, know when to walk away. Starting over isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes starting over allows us to learn from the mistakes of our past, and avoid them in the future.
2). Trust your intuition! It’s your “Clue” to what’s right and wrong in your life. You don’t need to explain your feelings to others – and there is never a need to justify them to anyone. Simply put… your inner guidance knows best.
3). Say I’m “Sorry”. It’s been said that the EGO is the soul’s worst enemy. It keeps us from saying the things we really need to say. We foolishly allow our EGO’s to get in the way of personal growth and development, because we believe that apologizing means admitting that we are wrong, or that the other person is right. Make no mistakes about it… in times of “Trouble” don’t be too stubborn to forgive, or too proud to apologize.
Life is a game.
REFUSE TO LOSE.
I stood in shock as I watched a full grown woman (whom was simply trying to lend a helping hand) being ripped a new one in front of a group of strangers! I was frozen. I didn’t know how to respond. Do I walk away and act like I didn’t hear or see anything? Should I defend her ( I mean really… she was only trying to help)? What are the other people in this room thinking? How are they feeling?
I am so frustrated by the lack of consideration that we as a people have for one another. I understand that there are times in which we find ourselves in high stressed situations that test our patients. However… everyday, and in every situation, we have a choice between being self-absorbed jerks, or rational human beings. There are no exceptions!!! Bottom line: IT IS NOT OKAY TO BE AN A**HOLE!!! It is also not okay to witness Jerkism and not shut it down. Me being me, I had to say something. I had to in a COURTEOUS but CURT way, make sure that the tactless woman who walked into a room of strangers and spit venom knew that she was out of order! However, I’m guessing that by this time “Evillene” had realized that she’d gone too far with her words. As she was left explaining her reasoning to my back. After I spoke my peace, I gave my helpful friend a solidarity wink and walked out as cool as a cucumber. I have no time for rude people!
Hi Friends! It’s Monday and that means that it’s time to get back to the hustle and bustle of the work week.
While many people will argue that Monday’s should be optional, I’m here to remind you that Monday’s are very necessary! Every Monday morning you have one of two options… (1) step forward into growth, or (2) step backwards into safety. You lived through last week, you survived it! Choose to move forward and create something beautiful.
SEIZE THE DAY!!!!
I’ve been thinking a lot about friendships and how fragile and complicated some of these relationships can be. Friends play a vital role in making us who we are as individuals; true friends boost our self-confidence, are our partners in crime, our shoulder to cry on, and our comfort zones. In some instances, we are closer to our friends than we are to our siblings. That’s why it’s important that anyone in your life that you have given the “Friendship/Bestie” title, is able to – for lack of a better word… CHECK you!
Seriously… friends have the unique ability to pick up on the things happening around us and in true “Captain Save a Hoe” fashion, predict the negative outcomes of situations. It is then up to us to heed the advice of the people we trust to tell us the harsh truths and keep us grounded. In short… we choose whether or not to be saved!
Thankfully, I have been blessed with an amazing and diverse group of friends whom respect and value my opinion just as much as I do theirs. However… I realize that not everyone is as fortunate as I am. So what is one to do when you have a friend who is just stuck on stupid!?!? Do you continue to offer advise? Do you allow them to self destruct? Do you stick around to pick up the pieces after they fall apart, or do you give into your frustrations and walk away?
Here comes the blessing in today’s lesson…
It doesn’t matter how wonderful of a person you are, or how good a friend you are. You cannot save a person who doesn’t want to be saved. People have to want to change. They have to want better… and do better! Until our friends have reached a turning point in which they are open to receiving love and direction; your intentions, no matter how noble they may be, will be misinterpreted.
While I believe that holding on and hanging in there are signs of strength and integrity, it is just as important that you know when to let go! Remember this… “Sometimes people have to fall apart to realize that they need to fall back together.”
This picture sums up over 30 yrs. of friendship! All the ladies pictured above make up the pieces of me. we’ve laughed, cried, loved, hated, and held on for years and years. I love my tribe to the moon and back <3.
Their are one hundred and one synonyms for the word protect. Recently I’ve learned that whether you are: defending, securing, safekeeping, or ensuring… it is important that you are the number one PROTECTOR of your own happiness!
If you follow my blog, you already know that the latter half of 2016 was super stressful for me- mentally, physically, and emotionally. I found myself going through one ordeal after another and constantly defending my beliefs to people whom I thought were on the same page as me. Ultimately I had to remove these people from my life. I had to get back to the basics and revisit the places and things that make me happiest. In doing so, I rediscovered apart of me that was lost. I found the light!
I’ve always known that there is a light inside of me. I’ve felt it burning and bubbling in the center of my chest since I was a little girl. People young and old around the world have seen it. Some have even been able to point it out/ put their finger on it, while others have done their best to snuff it out.
When you find that you are in a relationship (Friendship or Romantic), a job, or any kind of situation that is draining you or dimming your light, it’s okay to walk away in order to protect your happiness. As a matter of fact… don’t walk away- RUN!!! Think about it, if a flower doesn’t bloom you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.
So I stress that if you don’t remember anything else that I say, remember this… “While the light inside of us can lead us to great things, light also attracts moths, and the warmth of your light can attract parasites. PROTECT your ENERGY, SAFEGARUD your LIGHT, and ENSURE your HAPPINESS!”
- Pic 1: Getting my “Happy” on at the beach
- Pic2: Words to live by
- Pic 3: I love the visual of leaving behind the old and embracing the new!
You insist on running around town looking and acting like a clown.
Big head in the clouds, tiny toes tipping across the ground
Making a lot of noise, doing any and everything you can to attract the boys.
You’re too grown for this, so miss me with this.
I refuse to pull up a seat and watch as you self destruct.
Like a mirror, I can’t lie;
I won’t stick around and be your alibi.
I can’t have friends with no couth .
I run with winners and warriors; women who fight for their families and homes. Women who recognize that they are fully grown.
We are daughters of the sun who don’t give up until the race is won.
We don’t self destruct.
We don’t give in. We don’t care whether or not we fit in- we were born to stand out!
We are both Winner and Warrior and without a doubt…
We don’t self destruct!